“Everything happens for a reason.”
No one can control the uncontrollable and I genuinely believe that life doesn’t happen to us, it happens for us, and that we are meant to learn from our experiences.
Here’s a for instance:
When I was made redundant from a previous job, I went to what seemed to be about a thousand interviews (slight exaggeration) based on my career in marketing, and didn’t get a single one of those jobs. Want to know why I didn’t get them? At interviews I definitely projected the fact that my heart wasn’t in it, and I was only going for them because it’s what I’d always done. At the time it was a very stressful and depressing experience not having money coming in, day after day with no job, answering all the interest from recruiters on LinkedIn and applying for everything. I’m not ashamed to say that I was as close to rock bottom as I could get. Everybody I spoke to would trawl out that same old same old mantra "Everything happens for a reason", which I didn’t for one second believe. At the time I was so fed up that I think I gave up. I dropped my oars and screamed that all wanted was to have a part-time job with less responsibility!
Now call it intuition, the right timing, a nudge from my hubby or a combination of all three, but I shared my situation on one little Facebook status post, and suffice to say, that it blew up and as a result of that one teeny tiny action, I got a fantastic part-time job with much less responsibility! It was a bit like when those desperate to have kids and try-as-they-might can’t conceive, give up, go on holiday, have a rip roaring time, and discover they’re pregnant!
Now of course, with the benefit of hindsight, I can see that indeed “Everything does happen for a reason”, but at the time this mantra wasn’t even part of my vernacular! And it certainly wasn’t something I want to believe to be true. All I could think was that this was all happening to me. The Universe was singling me out to have a crap time of things; period!
Not only do I now know this to not be the case, but more especially I know that life is cyclical. It ebbs and flows like the tide. And as sure as night follows day, when you find yourself at the bottom, there is only one way you can go. “The only way is truly up.”
We’ll talk more about the Law of Rhythm in another post, but in the meantime here are my nine other favourite mantras that have saved me from imploding, on more than one occasion.